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Buying a vibrator can be a daunting task. Not only are there 20,302,991 (and counting) vibrators to choose from out there; they all come in all different shapes, they’re made of different materials, and they do different things.

Some of them even move.

We know; it’s crazy.

Thankfully, choosing the right vibrator isn’t hard once you know what you’re looking for. Even if you’re a bona-fide beginner and have no idea where to start, learning what the general categories of vibes are and what they do can help you narrow down your options to find the best first vibrator for you.

To make that process easy-as-pie, we created this first-time buyer’s guide for curious potential vibe owners. In it, you’ll find everything you need to know about the different types of vibrators, where to buy them, and how to use them so you can feel as comfortable and confident as possible picking your first (or 27th) one out. We also selected our favorite rookie toys — easy, fun and approachable vibrators that anyone can get their feet (and hopefully a few other things) wet with.

what is a vibrator

What is a Vibrator?

A vibrator is — drumroll please — anything that vibrates. Many people find vibration to be a pleasurable sensation, and while it can feel good all over the body, it’s particularly nice in extra-sensitive areas like the clitoris, vagina, anus, and penis. These body parts contain high concentrations of nerve endings that are especially responsive to vibration, meaning when you use a buzzy toy in those areas, the result is often orgasm or intense pleasure.

Vibrators are great tools for getting to know your body and learning to appreciate the positive sensations it’s capable of. They can help you discern what feels good and what doesn’t; two valuable bits of info you can use to experience more pleasure during both masturbation and partnered sex. They’re actually quite good for you, too — vibrators have been shown to improve mood, help with relaxation, boost sexual health and inspire more enjoyable sex.

How Do You Use a Vibrator?

However feels good! There is only one rule when it comes to vibrators: do not insert anything without a flared base or a phalange into the anus. Other than that, your first time using a vibrator can be a “whatever feels good” kind of game. Any gender sporting any body part can use any type of vibrator. Get creative, and do what works for you.

When Do You Use a Vibrator?

Whenever you want to! Many folks use them during masturbation, but plenty of couples use them during play to enhance sensation and increase intimacy between each other as well.

Different Types of Vibrators

Vibrators are often classified by either shape or the area of anatomy they’re designed to stimulate. Here are some of the more common categories of both, as well as some of the best beginner vibrators of each type.

G-Spot Vibrators

With their angled heads and easily recognizable curves, G-spot vibrators are designed to help you find and stimulate the — you guessed it! — G-spot. The G-spot is not an actual organ; rather, it’s a concentration of pleasurable nerves located 2-3 inches up inside the vagina on the same side as the bellybutton (front side.) Stimulating this area with toys, fingers, penises or any other item that feels good can produce particularly memorable orgasms and intense sensations, but be advised: the G-spot is a mercurial bunch of nerves that typically responds best to touch when its owner is already aroused. Because the G-spot is located inside the vagina, this type of vibrator is best for those who enjoy penetration.


Lovelife Cuddle

  • Material: Silicone
  • Power: Rechargeable
  • Strength: 5/10

It’s not uncommon for some people who are new to G-spot vibrators to be intimidated by the more extreme curvature of some of the toys. While that shape can be super useful for finding the G-spot, a less acute angle also works just as well. That’s why we love the Lovelife Cuddle. It’s curved just enough to provide some light G-spot and internal stimulation without being too intense for a doe-eyed newbie to enjoy, and its slender body makes it accessible to anyone who’s just starting down the path to G-spot glory.

Lelo Gigi 2

LELO Gigi 2

  • Material: Silicone
  • Power: Rechargeable
  • Strength: 7/10

With its gorgeous design, slim body and powerful vibrations, it’s not surprising the Gigi 2 is one of LELO’s best-selling vibrators worldwide. It’s great for beginners because of the shape of its head — the rounded bulge at the top makes locating and pleasuring the G-spot particularly easy, and the deep, rumbly quality of its vibrations make for a deeper, more encompassing internal massage. Even better — if people find that G-spot play is not what they’re in the mood for that day, they can still turn the Gigi around and use its broad, flat head for clitoral stimulation.

Clit Vibrators

While anything that vibrates tends to feel pretty good on the clit, clit-specific vibrators are often smaller and easier to hold on that area for more direct stimulation. Clit vibrators also come in a spectrum of shapes that can be fun to experiment with — there’s everything from small, bullet-shaped things to broad, flat, pebble-like vibes and beyond. Many clit vibes are also designed to mimic the natural curvature of the vulva, which makes them particularly easy to hold in place during partnered play. A lovely option for those who prefer external stimulation, clit vibes can also be used on the perineum, anus, nipples, penis, and testicles.

Crave Vesper

CRAVE Vesper

  • Material: Stainless steel
  • Power: Rechargeable
  • Strength: 6.5/10

One of the most common concerns for people new to vibrators is how discreet they are. Many first-timers are dissuaded by things that look like overt sex toys, and they sometimes opt for something small, non-phallic, and “cute” instead. And just what could possibly be smaller, more non-phallic and cuter than a necklace that also vibrates? The Vesper by CRAVE is a totally low-key vibe that’s inconspicuous, yet curiously strong for its size. With its slim, bullet-like shape, it’s excellent for direct, pointed clit stimulation, similar to the kind you might get with the tip of a finger or tongue.

JeJoue Mimi

JeJoue Mimi

  • Material: Silicone
  • Power: Rechargeable
  • Strength: 6.5/10

Some people prefer a more pointed sensation on their clits, but the JeJoue Mimi is a much better option for folks who enjoy kneading feelings similar to the one you might get with the palm of a hand or a few fingers used at once. With its broader surface area, the Mimi targets the clit and the vulva with lush, rumbly vibrations whose frequencies are known for activating deeper nerves. Beginners may enjoy experimenting with how different parts of the Mimi offer different sensations — play around with the tip, the flatter part of the body, or the rounded edges for a rush of pleasure.

Finger Vibrators

If you’re a fan of manual stimulation, finger vibrators are a great, low pressure way to add some more intensity to that type of play. They come in many shapes and sizes, but in general, you can attach them to either your fingers or your hand so that they stay conveniently in place while you do your thing. Because you don’t have to think terribly hard about holding them, finger vibes make particularly charming add-ons to oral sex — think how interesting fellatio, cunnilingus or analingus could get if the fingers you were already using could, you know, vibrate.

Dame Fin

Dame Fin

  • Material: Silicone
  • Power: Rechargeable
  • Strength: 4/10

Slip the Fin right between your fingers for an intensified external massage that’s almost too easy to pull off. It’s perfect for the clit, but it’s just as suited to go anywhere your fingers can (except the anus … unless you’re trying to make an ER doctor’s day.) The Fin’s not super strong, so it’s a nice option for beginners who are looking for external stimulation, but aren’t sure how intense of a sensation they like.

Bullet Vibrators

Bullet vibrators are small, external toys that are particularly handy for clitoral stimulation, but can be adapted or added on to pretty much any other kind of toy you can imagine. They’re a great diagnostic tool for beginners who aren’t sure what size, shape or strength they’re looking for — it doesn’t get much smaller than a bullet and they only come in one general shape, so using one can help you figure out if you need something bigger, or of a different design. Ironically, despite their size, there’s a high degree of strength variation in the world of bullets. But, because they’re tiny, they’re ideal for use during partnered sex when folks want some extra sensation but don’t want a toy that gets in the way.

We Vibe Tango

WeVibe Tango

  • Material: Hard plastic
  • Power: Rechargeable
  • Strength: 8/10

Tit-for-tat, the WeVibe Tango is the one of the strongest, most rumbly bullet vibes on the market. No one knows for sure how they got all that power into that tiny frame, but they did, and we’re grateful for it. Beginners will enjoy its flattened tip, waterproof body and how easy it is to clean, but, more so, newbies might like to know that you can attach it to literally anything (via the power of rubber bands) to make it vibrate with the strength of a thousand suns.

Wand Vibrators

Wand vibrators are known for one thing: strong, diffuse, full-body sensations. Because most of them pack a powerful motor in their rather hefty handles, they’re relatively large. This makes them great for people with mobility issues and larger bodies, but they’re really meant for anyone looking for intensity. By default, wand vibrators are made for external stimulation, but many companies make insertable attachments you can put on the wand’s head to turn it into an internal toy should the mood strike. The clit responds particularly enthusiastically to wands, and many people report they’re able to have spontaneous orgasms in the absence of desire while using these toys (individual results may vary.)

Magic Wand

The Magic Wand Original

  • Material: Vinyl
  • Power: Wall-charger; must be plugged in.
  • Strength: 10/10

This is the wand that started it all. Curling toes since the ‘70s, the Magic Wand Original is perhaps the most recognized and whispered about sex toy known to man on account of its uniquely deep vibrations. It’s remarkably uncomplicated, and thus accessible for beginners — with only two settings (strong and stronger) it doesn’t take much effort or know-how to ride this ride.

Femme Fun Diamond Wand

FemmeFunn Diamond Wand

  • Material: Silicone
  • Power: Rechargeable
  • Strength: 7.5/10

For the rookie who’s not sure which toy is right for them, the FemmeFunn Diamond Wand has an answer: all of them. This multi-tasking hybrid friend combines extra-strong wand-style vibrations, G-spot stimulation and pointed clitoral stimulation all in one for an ultra-efficient — and stylish — full-body experience. What can we say — sometimes it pays to be indecisive.

Rabbit Vibrators

For being called “rabbit” vibrators, only about half of this vibrator type has the small, soft rabbit-style ears that give them their name. A more accurate name for this type of vibes would be dual stimulators; toys intended to provide both internal and external pleasure at the same time. They have one smaller arm meant to stimulate the clitoris, and one larger arm that goes inside the vagina. Many rabbit-style toys also have internal portions that move in small circles, have rotating beads on their shafts, or both (or neither.) One of the best parts about rabbit vibes is that they’re safe for anal use — the clit arm acts as a base or phalange, meaning that the toy cannot get pushed up too far or lost. However you choose to use it, this type of vibrator tends to provide a lot of stimulation.

My First Jack Rabbit

My First JackRabbit Waterproof

  • Material: TPR
  • Power: Battery
  • Strength: 6/10

The name says it all. While the Jack Rabbit has a lot to offer for anyone between its rotating shaft, rabbit-ear clit stimulator, and many settings, it’s ideal for beginners thanks to its soft, jelly material and vibration levels that, while fun, aren’t exactly registering on the Richter scale. Its straight-up-and-down silhouette can feel more accessible to some folks than a more curved body as well.

50 Shades Greedy Girl Rabbit

50 Shades Greedy Girl Rabbit

  • Material: Silicone
  • Power: Rechargeable
  • Strength: 7/10

For the beginner who can’t quite decide between clitoral and G-spot stimulation, get you a toy that can do both. The Greedy Girl rabbit has independent motors in both the clit and internal arms giving you a full range of sensation, but its uniquely angled head ensures that if it’s the G-spot you’re after, you’re not going to miss it.

Slimline Vibrators

A slimline vibrator is one that’s more or less straight-up-and down with no attachments, frills or particularly specific uses to speak of (other than to have fun with.) They’re typically sized to be pleasurable for internal use, but they can easily be used anywhere external as well. Slimlines can be especially conducive to beginners because they’re so adaptable, and while many are, well, slim, many come with a bit more girth for those who enjoy a fuller feeling.

Jimmy Jane Iconic Smoothie

JimmyJane Iconic Smoothie

  • Material: Hard plastic
  • Power: Battery
  • Strength: 7/10

Modeled after the classic slimline vibrator popularized in the ‘70s, the sleek and slim Iconic Smoothie is about as basic as it gets. Beginners can learn a ton from a simple toy like this — because you can use it for vaginal penetration and clitoral stimulation, and because it’s long, yet slender, it can really elucidate exactly what areas feel good and what areas could use some added, or different types of touch. That, or they might fall in love with it as is and never need another toy for the rest of … this week?

Couples Vibrators

Technically speaking, any vibrator can be used as a couples vibrator in play. That said, some toys are particularly well-suited for two (or more) people. Often, these involve remote controls, apps or shareable shapes everyone can enjoy.

We Vibe Unite

WeVibe Unite

  • Materials: Silicone
  • Power: Rechargeable
  • Strength: 7.5/10

This U-shaped vibrator does it all. The smaller end is meant to be inserted into the vagina, while the fatter end sits outside the vulva and on top of the clit. The internal portion is thin enough so that someone can penetrate the vagina while the Unite is in there, which both presses that part closer to the G-spot for extra sensation and allows the partner doing the penetration to feel the vibration as well. It also comes with a remote control so the person wearing it can be stimulated from across the room (which can lead to some very interesting dinner dates …) No partner? No problem. The Unite can be used solo as well, in pretty much whatever way feels good.

Vibrating Cock Rings

Penises love vibration too! Vibrating cock rings can be fun for people who enjoy the sensation of vibration on their penis or testicles, but they’re also fun for couples — the cock ring turns the penis wearing it into a vibrator, meaning if you’ve got a penis and you’ve got a vibrating cock ring, you’ve essentially got an entire sex store at your fingertips. In case you’re short on penises or they’re not your thing, you can also easily use these types of vibe for any sort of external stimulation, be it on the clit, anus, nipples or … left elbow?

Jimmy Jane Iconic Vibrator C Ring

JimmyJane Iconic C-Ring

  • Materials: Elastomer (TPE)
  • Charging: Battery
  • Strength: 3/10

When it comes to beginner-friendliness, you can’t get much more friendly than the Iconic C-Ring. Made from super-stretchy elastomer, it can fit comfortably around most penises or packages (packaging meaning penis and testicles.) The small bullet vibrator on tip brings a wave of buzzy sensation to wherever you put it, and, when used with a partner, can feel great to grind up against. Make sure to use with lube for easy application and removal.

Penis Vibrators

These are, quite simply, vibrators that penises can use. Hooray! Like other vibrator categories, they vary in shape and size. Many people enjoy using them during masturbation, but they’re also great for working into couple’s play.

Hot Octopuss Mini Pocket Pulse

Hot Octopuss Pocket Pulse

  • Materials: Silicone, hard plastic
  • Power: Rechargeable
  • Strength: 4.5/10

Think of the Pocket Pulse as handjob upgrade. Made of soft, smooth silicone, it’s designed to be used as a vibrating stroker along the shaft and head of the penis. Beginners will love how easy it is to hold (it cups right into the natural curve of your hand), and how seamless it can be integrated into play — use it during masturbation, hand jobs, blow jobs, or even on the base of the penis during penetrative sex for added sensation.

Anal Vibrators

Butts! Everyone has one, making toys designed for anal a remarkably inclusive category. When approached correctly, the anus can be a source of lovely, intense pleasure for many folks — in fact, it’s home to the second-highest concentration of pleasurable nerve endings in the human body, outnumbered only by the clitoris. However, the rectum and prostate (if you have one) are also power-packed with the same sorts of orgasmic nerves that innervate the clit, vagina, penis, and testicles, meaning that both external and internal anal play can feel quite nice. Just like toys for the clit, vulva, and vagina, there are many shapes and sizes of anal toys to choose from. Always use lube with an anal toy as the anus does not self-lubricate.

We Vibe Ditto

WeVibe Ditto

  • Material: Silicone
  • Power: Rechargeable
  • Strength: 8/10

For a first-time anal vibe user, the WeVibe Ditto plug is just about the most quality introduction to the world of anal play you can get. With a size and shape designed for comfortable, easy wear and a velvety-soft silicone material, it’s accessible, hygienic, and most, importantly fun. The Ditto comes with both a remote control and a WiFi-enabled app so you can change its vibration patterns and intensities hands-free. While you don’t need to use the app if you don’t want to, it lets you customize your vibration patterns as well as interact with your partner from across long-distances, putting you squarely in control of your pleasure in a whole new way.

Where to Buy a Vibrator?

There are many places to buy a vibrator from (hint: you’re on one right now.) The internet is awash with sites that both review and sell vibrators of every conceivable shape, color, size, and function, but there are also many clean, reputable, inclusive and sex-positive stores you can visit if you’d like to see the toy in person before you buy it. Unfortunately, sex toy stores aren’t quite as ubiquitous as, say, Walgreen’s or Chipotle just yet, but most major cities in most states have them. If you’re rural, don’t have a car, or just plain don’t feel like leaving the house today though, the internet is your friend.

One site we’d recommend staying away from is Amazon. Because Amazon has a liberal return policy (which is fantastic for products that don’t go inside you), there’s no guarantee that a sex toy purchase from them hasn’t been opened or used by someone else.

5 Tips for Buying Your First Vibrator

It’s normal to have a lot of questions when it comes to buying your first vibrator. Below are a few helpful suggestions that we hope can demystify the process a bit.

1. Don’t break the bank.

When it comes to pleasure products, price doesn’t always equate to quality. If you’re working with a budget, go with what you can afford. That way, you can experiment with what feels good without breaking the bank.

2. Lube makes everything feel better.

Using a lube that’s compatible with your toy material can help enhance sensation so you get the most out of your new toy. Here are a few of our very favorite personal lubricants.

3. Masturbate before you buy.

When it comes to buying your first vibrator, it really helps to know which parts of your bodies feel good to touch. Looking for a toy that will enhance sensation in that area (or areas) can provide some useful direction.

If you’ve never masturbated before or still aren’t sure where feels good to touch, a clit vibrator is always a great place to start. Data varies on the exact percentage of women who need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, but many sources say that number reaches upwards of 75 percent. So, if you’re totally lost, there’s a good chance this type of vibe will do the trick. Even if it doesn’t, that’s still okay — learning what doesn’t work for you is still valuable information to know for your next purchase.

No clit? No worries. You can still use a clit vibe as a diagnostic tool to see which parts of your body respond well to buzzes, rumbles and everything in between.

4. There is no such thing as “best.”

First time buyers frequently want to know what the “best” vibrator is, but because that word is so subjective, and because everyone’s bodies and desires are so different, there’s no universal “best” vibrator.

A better way to look at it is which vibrator is best for you. What sensations are you going for? What areas of the body do you want to stimulate? What is your price point? Browsing our site and paying attention to which toys excite you is also a good way to narrow down the selection. Go with your gut — it’s usually right!

5. Most people like vibrators, but they’re not everyone’s vibrating cup of tea.

And that’s okay! There are tons of other sex toys and pleasure products that don’t vibrate but can still blow your mind. Here are some of our favorites and best selling vibrators.

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