Dipping Into Bondage: The How To for Couples

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Ever since 50 Shades of Grey came out, couples across the globe have realized how boring their sex lives have become! Then, 50 Shades Darker came out and even strictly-missionary-love-making couples are curious about incorporating kinkier, freakier, and sexier experiences in between the sheets. However, being spanked with a paddle while having a gag in your mouth can be a terrifying place to start. Instead, take it slow with soft bondage toys to slowly introduce you and your partner to a little BDSM. When you’re ready to take things up a notch, you can move onto the sex swing and kegel balls but until then, here’s how to start bondage.

What is BDSM?

In order to start with bondage, you have to understand what BDSM means. This will help you determine how much or how little you’re willing to dip into as a beginner to bondage.

B is for BONDAGE

D is for DOMINANCE (or DISCIPLINE)

S is for SUBMISSION

M is for MASOCHISM

As you see, “BDSM” incorporates bondage toys, dominance or discipline toys, submission, and masochism. However, as a beginner to bondage you can pick and choose from any (or all) of those things. If the idea of discipline is too intimidating, erase it from the equation for now.

Set Some Rules

Even the most intense and hardcore BDSM has rules. Despite the theme being rather savage and uncontrollable, the key to achieving a quality bondage experience is trust. Placing ground rules will give both you and your partner the confidence needed to become completely vulnerable to the other. So, never start bondage without rules.

Here are some things to consider prior to diving in-between the sheets:

  1. What you’re comfortable with or more importantly, what you’re not comfortable with.
  2. Discuss whether or not you want to be restricted and if so, how (such as only arms, only legs, not too tight, etc.).
  3. Always have a safe word! This is the one thing either of you can say to get whatever to stop. As such, it’s important to make it a word that is completely unusual but easy to remember.

Time for Some Toys

Once you’ve ironed out the fine lines, it’s time to make them wrinkly again with some excitement and bondage toys. As mentioned, you don’t have to go to all extremities as a BDSM beginner. Instead, start with soft bondage toys and work your way up to other, more intense toys. Here are some of our favorites:

 

When you’re ready to upgrade to a 50 Shades of Grey experience, pull out the whips, gags, and paddles. Until then, it’s time to dip in between the sheets and legs of your partner with soft bondage for beginners. It’s an excellent way for couples to increase their intimacy, relight the spark, and learn new things about one another.

Chantal McCulligh

Chantal McCulligh

Chantal is the kind of girl who does it all. She’s a freelance writer, marketer, social media manager, and mental health advocate, with a burning desire to share her love, life, experience, and knowledge with the world. With her words, she hopes to inspire everyone to achieve their dreams and overcome their struggles – even in between the sheets.
Chantal McCulligh